- The Beatles sang this song back in “the good ole days.” Well, I don’t need anyone to bring me down…cause I’m one of those people that has periodic spells that descend on me, covering me with feelings of sadness and loneliness. Some would say,”Snap out of it! WHY are you sad? You’re just wanting attention! You have nothing to be sad about!” Sound familiar? Well, if you’re one of “normal” people who haven’t a clue about depression, then you’re lucky. All my life I’ve either been UP or Down! No neutral position for me…I’m like an hourglass, one day I’m great, next week I’ll be sinking like
- A stone. And the “dark clouds ” just have to disapate in time, usually I’ll feel better the next day or two. Why am I’m writing this sad, maudlin stuff? Well, my intentions are to create a bridge of understanding between 😔 and😘.
- First of all, and foremost, you can’t do a darn thing about someone who’s feeling down,and tell you just “because ” or “I don’t know.” Or Nothing…. End result, they feel guilty and you feel frustrated and angry.
- Well, the solution is in listening, just being there, and acceptance. You don’t tell us, “you have nothing to be sad about! What’s wrong with you! You have a wonderful life! You’re hopeless!” Rather, allow us space and you acknowledge us and our feelings. And then you go busy yourselfgoing on about your business. You might just say “I’m sorry you’re down, and I’m here for you. ” I’m not saying ignore, but just back off, give us our space, and we’ll eventually come around.
- Let us play our sad songs, read, and be a “potato .” We have to navigate our way back by recognizing,”I’m having a bad day, but if I can just go through “the motions,” tomorrow will be a better day.”
- “Sunshine on my shoulders makes me happy,”and it does! Exercise, swimming, walking,bicycling, or yoga might be helpful. Gardening is especially good for the soul! Helping others who are worse off than you can do wonders. Coloring, painting, sewing ,or doing chores will keep you on a steady path back to “happiness.”
- All I can say, about being depressed, is that I think it affects those of us who love so deeply and feel joy so great, that we get a little scared of what’s passed and what may come next. It’s knowing how much you have and how easily it could be taken from you I’m an instance!
- I’m signing out. Please, feel free to give your opinions and share your experiences! Over and out. Abby🙏🏻🌹⚜😘
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Finally found your blog and read this one this morning. Love your writing and look forward to getting to know you better
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Well, yep. I learned to love before I knew what I was doing. So’n’so (please read: Ms. Susanna Frishman) broke my heart in two pieces when I was 15 years old, and I never let it happen again, and here’s the kicker. I never even knew I’d done it… in my head. I DECIDED without ever knowing I’d done taken that turn, and it shaped my life, every girlfriend, my marriage, and my approach to women for 36 years… or a little less since I’ve realised what I’d done. Once burned, and million times shy, right? It’s just a bridge too far, a risk to great to ever allow another loss again that you can’t even admit it to yourself! It’s ironic because Susanna saw me clearly enough to advise me “…to say ‘f you!’ to a LOT more people…” she saw a personality imbalanced and ready to make fuller, more robust waves with the gift of certainty we all possess if we only will claim it. While not one of us can be certain about everything, each of us can be unflinching, and unapologetic about something… and it is us those people in our lives should depend on to give them that clarity on that subject. It’s a huge part of your gift, Howard Anne. Thanks, again.
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